A little over two years ago, I wrote an article about unhappiness and that it is OK to be it, every now and then. Back then, it seemed to become a new trend: someone stating to be unhappy or even depressed. Today, I’m republishing a large part of that article, updated it here and there, to remind you: it is OK to be unhappy once in a while…
Don’t get me wrong, it is not my intention to minimize the struggles many of our neighbors have to go through each day. On the contrary!
Mental illness, is a real disease. It will affect a person’s life, including the people closest to him or her. Hence, it will take over a person completely. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, because how I see it: People with this condition don’t wake up one day and decide to be mentally ill.
I therefore recommend to be open, for instance, about not feeling adequate enough or feeling alone. As I wrote in my article about depression; when you can’t find your way out of the darkness, you should reach out to someone.
However, there is a difference between mental illness and unhappiness:
To only focus on the positive, on being happy all the time, I believe is unhealthy. It is denying your limitations, it is not accepting your flaws. It means not embracing ALL of you and that will lead to never be able to love yourself; for the unique Beautiful Soul you are. It is OK to have a bad day, to worry every now and then, to feel insecure about a choice you’ve made. When you lose someone close to you, it is normal to grieve, to feel sad.
It is OK, to be unhappy every now and then
To me, it is also perfectly normal, you deal with that in your own unique way. It could help to go for a walk to clear your head, listen to your favorite music for a few hours, sleep an extra hour during the day, relieve your troubled soul with creating a piece of art, practice your favorite sport, treat yourself with a huge ice-cream, talk to your best friend… Whatever helps to Boost Your Soul.
As I wrote above: mental illness is a real disease. Being unhappy on a DAILY base, for a LONG period of time isn’t something you (should) choose. It is not a condition easily cured with a walk in the forest, or a happy song. If you suspect you have succumb to this, take it serious.
Unhappiness on the other hand, should not be taken too lightly either. Take a sick day if needed, force yourself to take a step back for a short period of time, breathe, relax. Whatever feels good to you, as the unique person you are. Treat it for what it is: a warning sign from your body to re-energize.
In 2018, I was really concerned depression became some kind of new trend. Today I worry, with all the effects of the pandemic, on top of already existing issues globally, many of our neighbors will slip into the darkness. Two years ago I wrote, unhappiness should not have to become the next trend. Today, I am asking you to take good care of yourself. Take good care of your beloved ones. Be kind to your neighbors.
It’s OK to be unhappy every once and a while. Now more as before, absolutely understandable. Reach out if you feel alone, isolated, stuck, misunderstood. Life can be harsh and we can’t always choose what happens to us, around us. What we can choose is how to deal with, respond to Life’s road blocks. Let’s choose a healthy trend…