Whether we like it or not, we all judge. Personally, I figured, we better start to accept that fact. At the same time, I believe it is wise to reflect upon the fairness of the judgements we make.
Just like emotions have a good and a bad function, I believe that is true when it comes to judgements too. A part of nature, being animals, we still possess the natural instinct to judge if a situation is dangerous. Which is definitely a good function, else we wouldn’t realize fire could damage us seriously.
Last week there were horrific floods in the area where I live, as well as in neighboring countries. My emotions ran wild, from worry to sadness. Some people did not even have had the time to assess the threatening situation and lost their homes or worse, their lives. Fortunately, many people are compassionate and when in danger, support one and another as much as possible.
During those same days, I learned that people decided to go on holiday trips, alongside flooded areas. Which meant they had to travel through the areas while devastating events took place. I did judge their decision. To me, I thought (and still think) it was irresponsible and even immoral. Their reasoning: they payed for their stay in advance and they could always turn around if the situation got too dangerous.
Of course, I do realize, due to the pandemic, hotels and other accommodations need the income more than ever. Still, it just doesn’t sit right with me. Those travelers did put their selves in unnecessary danger, while they still had time to cancel. In addition, the holiday accommodations could be (and still can be) very useful for all the people who have lost their houses.
It is never easy to make hard decisions.
Accepting our judgmental side
While I could never enjoy a holiday trip in such a troubled area, I would have taken my loss of money, I am aware it was not my decision to make. However, it got me thinking about the judgmental species we have become. Not the necessary part, the good side, out of instinct to estimate and thus judge a dangerous situation or even behavior.
I am referring to the bad judgmental side we all possess. And maybe worse: we even developed a sort of scorecard. The people in above described situation got a few negative points added on my card. The fact that being judgmental is an outcome of the conscious we developed, and therefore it is part of us humans, I think we have to accept it.
Besides staying aware of the right we have to have different opinions, I think it is also wise to reflect more on the judgements we make. When we judge without seeking to understand the behavior, choices, beliefs, etc. of those we judge, we might even cross a line and discriminate.
So, is my judgement fair about the above described situation? Did/do those people lack compassion? Some of those travelers might not have been able to go on holiday due to previous Covid restrictions, or had to work hard and save up long. And of course, I do understand the need for people to relax in a different environment. To travel and experience new adventures, creating new memories.
It is a matter of perspectives. There is just not always a right or wrong side to assign. All we can do is to not use our judgmental conscious part as an excuse. We have to keep on trying to judge with compassion and kindness, try to make sure our judgements are fair. That doesn’t mean we have to condone everything, or even like everyone. To me it means, accepting we are one species consisting of very different individuals.
Whether we like it or not: we all judge, let’s accept it ; -)
Since I love to Connect, also for the purpose to learn from each others perspectives, do share below your thoughts on our judgmental side!