As a young girl, I took much pleasure in browsing through all kinds of magazines: the photographs of fingernails painted in red even helped me to stop biting my nails. As a teenager (also later on,) I loved to read the columns and articles of women who gave advice about any topic you can think of. Mostly women wrote to the author of such column – usually with a header like ‘Dear Mona’ – and asked questions about their relationship (or the lack of having one), about health issues, household tips and even now and then political issues were addressed.
When you asked me around the age of seven, what I wanted to be as an adult, I answered ‘a psychologist for children’. Children of my age, who needed a listening ear always seemed to be attracted to me. Even adults told me their problems, which years later I understood weren’t topics for a young girl to talk and worry about.
As the eldest of children in a merged family I was often the listening ear for the youngsters. Nowadays it still regularly occurs, talking to another person, even strangers: within five minutes people tell me their life-stories, or the recent issues they deal with.
During my life, I often needed a listening ear myself: my mother divorced twice, re-married for a third time and I had to deal with trying to get along with new family members. Moving from one place to another more than once, transferring schools, making new friends. Finding my biological grandparents, dealing with losing them too soon.
Unfortunately, no stranger to emotional abuse either. Feeling lonely among all those Beautiful Souls here on earth and constantly having to be aware of not getting depressed… I had to go through that too.
Life was at times a roller coaster and I didn’t become a psychologist for children. I got divorced myself once, remarried and due to my husbands work we relocated to another country. The wish to be there for my neighbors, however, never changed. Today, I am a researcher, philosopher, blogger and a multidisciplinary skilled helper. Through the years, I learned that empathic active listening during a conversation will be more effective as giving advice.
The right questions and tools
No matter our background, upbringing, current situation, gender, age or belief-system, we all question ourselves at times. Finding the answers corresponding to our unique personality, figuring out what lifestyle fits best and fully embrace ourselves can be quite a challenge.
Life is an ongoing process, change inevitable and the perfect way does not exist. However, the right questions will lead to the root cause of insecurities, doubts or low self-esteem. The right tools will uncover unique main values, enabling to make choices with confidence.
Enabling you to Connect to Yourself: Core Connection.
Sometimes, however, reading books and articles, listening to podcasts and watching videos doesn’t seem to lead you to where you want to be. Costs, shame, lack of time, overwhelmed with all the contradicting information or emotions… Seeking help seems to be too big of a leap to take and you remain stuck. That’s why I offer support through my website, enabling you to find the answers to your questions yourself.
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Building stones I lean on:
My personal building stones are the wisdom of our ancestors and of nature. In addition, the knowledge and technology of the 21st century. Passionately connecting (off- and online) with people on a global scale, for the purpose to exchange knowledge, experiences and perspectives.
Life is about continuous growth. Expanding knowledge by studying various topics AND applying that what makes sense to me, is my way of growing on a personal level. Hence my preference for person-centered approaches in life and study. More Info.
Sharing these building blocks and offering guidance through my website, I aim to inspire my neighbors to Connect.
To Life, To Others, To Yourself.
“Patty is a highly empathic helper who puts a special emphasis on actively listening to the client in order to understand the issue.
Through my sessions with Patty, I’ve never felt judged or misunderstood. She gave me ample space to express whatever was in my mind, which she skillfully summarized back to me. Her guidance helped me see things from a much wider perspective, which provided much clarity in my train of thoughts and she helped me work around my issues and move into the direction I wanted to go.
Working with Patty is always a pleasure, even when we work on more complex or tough topics. I can only recommend her.”
D. from France.
“Your dedication to connection is inspiring Patty, and kudos for your work encouraging others on the path. Your ability and willingness to offer acknowledgment to others is a true gift of spreading love and makes this world a better place indeed. I’m grateful to you!”
D. from USA.
“Thank you for your listening ear and help me view my thoughts and issues from different perspectives”.
A. from Africa.